I find myself doing a lot of "Yes buts" lately where my kids are concerned. Someone will tell me, "Kate is such a sweet little girl" and I will reply, "Yes but she is really heading into the terrible 3s." Some one will tell me how good Carson is and I will say, "Yes, but he's such a mess!" Someone will remark on how well Kate and Carson get along and then I will relay a story about how they fought over the Buzz Lightyear this week end. Why do I do this? Do I think that that person will think I'm bragging too much on my kids if I agree with them? Do I think that they will think that I think my kids are perfect? Sometimes I say this to gain some common ground. Hmmmm...... I decided to try the flip side yesterday. I picked Carson up from his bible class and the teacher remarked what a good boy he is. Instead of rolling my eyes and saying something smart like, "he only acts this way at church" or "he's such a challenge" I simply said, "Thanks. I love him so much." What a different reply and it even threw me off guard. But you know what? It felt really good. Believe me, I know that any Mom that I talk to knows that a 2 and 3 year old can be challenging and their behavior can change from minute to minute. I am going to try to start speaking well of my kids when they are in ear shot and even when they are not. By the way, I do have to say that yesterday while I was professing my love for Carson he was taking off down the hall with out me. He IS a stinker, but do I have to reinforce that to someone everytime I talk to them?